The Simple Things

We go through life taking the most important things for granted and hunting chimeras.

We wake up grumpy because we would like to sleep some more or because we are not in the mood for going to work where deadlines are approaching and colleagues we don’t really like share the office with us. We wake up grumpy because it is raining outside or maybe because we must iron a shirt or because we are out of milk for breakfast.

Then we go through the day in a hurry, we don’t enjoy the rain or the sun or the air or the changing of seasons or the green of the grass. We get mad at stuff like bills, gossips, traffic, money and we get home exhausted. We barely enjoy our families and friends, we talk to them while watching TV or texting or facebooking. Then we go to bed exhausted after a full day, happy we were able to squeeze in so many important things in our schedule: work, grocery shopping, watching our favorite TV show, taking a long bath.

How many of you wake up each morning happy because the sun is up in the sky, happy they can breath, walk and talk? I admit I don’t. And I am ashamed for being so ungrateful. And I apologize to all of you that can’t breath, walk or talk because I am so mad each morning I have to get up and go to work. I am sorry.

P.S. A colleague of mine had a stroke last week and he still doesn’t have the ability to talk and to write. Each time I visit him and see him struggling to express himself, it breaks my heart. These days I promised myself to enjoy more the simple things because, in fact, the simple things are the ones that really matter. Don’t waste your life. Live the hell out of it because the only certainty we have is that we die. I know it sounds creepy but it is true.


16 thoughts on “The Simple Things

  1. deadlyeverafter says:

    This is honest and well-said. I make sure to smile just for nothing. It is proven to make you happier. When I pray, I don’t ask for things, I thank God for the things I have. And I don’t sweat the small stuff. The way my life is is the way I made it. I will be proud of my choices and their result, no matter what.

    You inspire me, and I look forward to every post.



    1. Lavinia says:

      Thank you for reading, Julie. I admire people like you, that don’t sweat the small stuff and don’t ask for things. It is my goal to become one of these people, it is a long process but I can see the changes in me. It saddens me that sometimes I forget and get carried away and I only become aware of it when something tragic happens to people around me.

      Have a great day:)


  2. belgianca says:

    I have days when I wake up grumpy, but it’s my fault – I don’t sleep enough. The rest, I am happy for the life I have.
    By the way, a pet might help. Since I have mine, it’s easier to be positive. 🙂


    1. Doggy's Style says:

      I agree, pets do help.
      Getting home and seeing how that little puppy ate your favorite pair of sunglasses, you wanna kill him, but then he wags his little tail and licks you, it just makes you forget about everything.


    2. Lavinia says:

      Well, I am mostly happy but sometimes I get grumpy over nothing. I waste energy on stupid things instead of enjoying each moment of my life. As for pets, because I love pets I decided I shouldn’t get one. I am not there yet, I can’t keep alive another soul. Not just yet. :))) I am taking baby steps. I can finally keep plants alive so let’s see:)))


  3. viveka says:

    We have all the same choice every morning .. if we have our health … and that is to have a a good day or a bad day – it’s all in our attitude … very good post. There is no need for grumpy days, even if we haven’t slept well .. but still we all have them.


    1. Lavinia says:

      Yes, indeed. We all have them. I have grumpy mornings every morning, I never wake up happy. And when you think about it, it is such a bless to wake up and start the day. I don’t know what I have till it’s gone or until I see it is gone for someone close to me. I am in the process of changing my ways, I really need to.


  4. Doggy's Style says:

    Lavinia, I loved your post!
    After seeing 2 close friends die too soon and too young, I realized I was living my life wrong, I was just going through life as I was inmortal(I still like to believe I’m invincible).
    Now I wake up happy and go to be bed happy, even if I get really mad at my partner before going to bed, I make up and go to sleep, I keep telling him, I may die tomorrow or someone may kill me.
    I’m stil grumpy, but don’t let take over, I just don’t care as much as I did before.


    1. Lavinia says:

      Why do we have to witness tragedies to start living our lives right? The same happened to me. And still I waste energy over small things so often. At least now I am aware of it and try to stop because, just like you, I know I might die tomorrow and I don’t want to die angry. My life got better since I started focusing more on living and less on accumulating things. I am still working on it but I feel way better than a few years ago.


  5. rebecca2000 says:

    I love this post. It is the small things in life that we should appreciate. It shouldn’t be about the next gadget we get, it should be about love, relationships, and thankfulness.


  6. Cuvânta says:

    I’m like you. Grumpy. Nothing is ever good enough. I chase chimeras. Forgive me too, because I sometimes forget how happy I am.


  7. Squirrelly Writer says:

    Exquisite post. Where else can I read such a lexical pairing as “chasing chimeras”? If I ever form a band, that will be its name. Seriously, you are so correct. It’s a sentiment said so often as to feel cliché and yet it’s so poorly followed. A certain mutual friend has pointed out to me when and how often I am being negative in the past year-plus, and I never realized that negativity dominated my demeanor so much. Where did it get me? Wanting to re-invent my life, that’s where. I resolve to be grateful that I even have the opportunity, the resources, the pack up and move to a strange new world nearly a thousand miles away.

    Thank you for being an inspiration, today and every day. 🙂


  8. Lavinia says:

    Re-inventing your life is good. We are not trees, to stay in the same place forever. We are more like birds. We should fly where it is better for us to live:) I am gonna re-invent myself soon also. I am gonna move from Romania in a few weeks. Being negative usually doesn’t bring up good things, but in your case it worked fine. I am sure you will do great 🙂 And you really liked that “chasing chimeras” expression or are you making fun of me? :))) It is a Romanian expression, I have just used it in English. Every time I do these kind of lexical stunts I think they might not sound well in English:)))


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